“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.” – Nido Qubein – President of High Point University
Ten Steps To Dream Big
By Dr. Jussi Eerikäinen
We all have many dreams during our life spans. However, we need to learn to dream big. Big dreams transform our life from comfort zones to the quality life with truly desire.
Dreaming big is finding meaning in our lives. Ask yourself this critical question:
“Will I create my life out of design or do I let life just happen to me?”
Why is this question so important? Because, most people take the latter choice. Not because they’re bad people, it’s because they’re not aware —until pain or failure strikes to wake them up.
“A life lived of choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived of chance is a life of unconscious creation.” – Neale Donald Walsch
To address this issue in the proper way, let’s find first the moving reason that makes extraordinary people so different from the rest of the pack.
Mission Oriented Life
The most extraordinary people in the word do not necessary have a career or a business. What they sure have, is a mission; a mission that gives them a particular meaning of life, because success for them has nothing to do with your career, or joining the family business, or being an entrepreneur.
Then, success it’s just something bigger, something they describe as a mission. They dream big, and because they dream big, they become obsessed with this idea that gives them energy, the fuel to move relentlessly forward and all their problems and other issues become insignificantly small. Their lives have a special meaning.
Finding Meaning To Your Life As You Create Your Dream
Finding meaning to your life will energize you and will make you resilient when you meet failure.
The average person normally wakes up with pain and illness. They get sick and tired of being sick and tired, or there is so much pain or suffering that they come exhausted to the end of their route, and asking,
“What’s going on with me?”
“Why can’t I be happy?”
“How can I be happy?”
“How can I have more in life?”
Once they begin to ask those questions, the universe -which is friendly- commences to operate on their behalf, and synchronicity starts happening. Spontaneous goodness emerges. Serendipity occurs. And things come into their path like little pebbles that pull them into a state of greater and greater awakening.
And when they look back, they recognize that that torment forced them to ask some different questions about life, because what they were doing and what they were having at that time just didn’t satisfy them. Then a huge miracle takes place: You find your calling in life!
Finding Your Calling Is Finding Your Dream
Aim to find that calling. When you aim high, you will find not only that life is not happening to you or life is happening by you -as we discovered in past chapters- but life is happening through you.
Your calling is to be a participant on a higher level, to become the channel, the instrument the universe and God uses to manifest life. You feel a calling or a mission, a desire to journey to some other part of the world. You feel the need to transform, to change and improve yourself.
The great Zig Ziglar said, “Outstanding people have one thing in common—an absolute sense of mission.”
Then inspiration will happen to you. You won’t live by motivation any more. You don’t need that. You will move because something greater than you is inspiring you and is working through you. True passion will follow to inspire you and make you unstoppable.
That’s right. When you are inspired you don’t need motivation. You just don’t need anything or anybody to motivate you. You live by inspiration.
Because there is a big difference between living by intention and living by inspiration.
What I mean by that? Most people set their dreams solely relying on intention,
“I want this!”, “I want that!”
“That’s what I am going to be”
However, living from inspiration is different. As you get deeper consciousness, you will ‘sense’ the idea that there is a purpose in life to be fulfilled. The certainty of knowing that you have ‘a calling’ and that you have channels to be connected with the universe, with nature and ultimately with God, which in turn will give you a ‘hint’ of that calling. That calling creates the inspiration and that inspiration will mold your intentions, leading you to your ultimate goal or dream.
In other words, the dreams don’t come from you but through you. You start living by inspiration.
It Ain’t Easy
When you discover the inspiration that fuels your passion, and you follow them -your inspiration and your passion- you’ll find yourself going against the grain. You could even face some opposition. Be at ease, because…
I am going to make it easier for you. I will give you some powerful tools, which you can apply many times as your life unfolds to new levels. They will guide you from intention to inspiration which again, will correct and mold your intentions. You will be on the track you ought to be.
Each tool is a step upwardly that will take you from one level to the other, to finally reach higher dimensions. However life is more like a tree than a ladder. Take the time to read to this gem I got for you today,
“Life’s more like a tree than a ladder, it branches off in different directions not directly upward by rungs, and sometimes we just need to restart life on a new branch to move upwards.”- Sir Eric Geddes, broadcaster.
As you climb upwardly ask yourself frequently:
“Where am I on the tree of life?”
See yourself in the tree of life. It isn’t a straight climb all the way up. It will go occasionally, in different directions according to life’s turns and times. If your climbing in life has you taking a twist especially one you didn’t plan, it may be the universe’s way of making you to look at another branch to correct your course that will truly tap into your potential for greatness.
If by any chance, you feel stuck, you know, feel like you’re in a dead end in your career, pull back and pause and then mentally look around you. And rather than insisting on a straight climb upward, see if there are any other branches you can leap to. Other routes and ways you can take to reach the top. To help you out, use the tools I am giving you here. Let’s discover these wonderful tools and apply them as you climb up the tree of life.
Ten Enlightening Tools
Step 1. Honor your Discontent.
Every great dream results from blending discontent with yearning.
Your discontent comes from your life seeking a fuller and expanding expression by itself in you.
Remember you can’t make yourself, you can’t take one breath of your own; you can’t make yourself another heart beat on your own. This magnificent thing is happening in you now called life and life is seeking to grow and expand as everything in the universe is expanding.
Your discontent generally comes when your feel shut down and tired of struggling or contracted in areas such as health, relationships, your creative expression -what you do with your time, talent or freedom.
Then look out of what you’re longing or yearning to have. What would be the answer to that discontent? If you feel contracted here-that force that pulls you back-, what would you long, what would be the expansion -that inner desire to grow-there?
Remember? There are two opposite forces we face, one contracting and another one expanding.
So, let’s use our discontent as an awakening tool and use it to blend your discontent with what you’re yearning. Then ask:
“What do I love?”
“Would I feel more alive with my dream?”
“Will I grow and find meaning in my life with my dream?”
Now just take note of that yearning of yours. Write it down because you don’t want to lose that idea in the vast expansion of your mind. Write it down. Got it?
Now, with your longing written down it’s time for the next step.
Step 2. Test your Dream or Longing
In this stage you will be testing your intentions. Remember that you are trading the most important things you have in life to get that dream. These things are,
- Your time
- Your life energy
It is crucial to test, what you ‘think’ is your dream if you are going to invest time and energy on that dream. Better you make sure that dream and intentions are worthy of your life.
Here is where most people fail. When they have a dream or a longing, they ask the wrong questions:
“Is that dream worth pursuing?” (meaning: Am I worthy of that dream?)
“I don’t have the money, could I do this?”
“I don’t have the knowledge, how can I do this?”
They start dis-empowering and sabotaging them as they ask if they are worthy. That’s the wrong way to do it! When you try to accomplish things that go beyond your own sense of “self-deservingness,” you will unconsciously sabotage yourself. So what you have to do is change that programming. The right questions in your mind should be:
“Good things are supposed to happen to me. Is that dream worthy of me?”
“Would I love to do that?”
“One year from now, could I say ‘I love my life’?”
If you mentally answer “yes” to all these questions. Then, it’s time to test your dream. For that you need to ask, and then… yes! Jot down these questions and answers!
If I accomplish that dream in my life:
1. Would I feel more alive if I attain this dream?
2. Would I grow with this dream?
3. Is this dream in alignment with what matters to me?
4. Do I need help from a higher power? Or it’s something I can do by myself.
5. Is there any good in this dream for others? My family, my coworkers and acquaintances?
6. Would the world benefit if I achieve this dream?
You should have to answer “yes” to all of these questions. Keep in mind that the universe is interested in expansion: your expansion, my expansion, others expansion as well. Expansion in goodness, wellbeing and blessings to all.
When your dream is tested through these six questions, you’re ready for the next step.
Step 3. Using the Tool: “Up until now!”
This is one of the hardest steps of the list. Once you identify your dream by blending your discontent with your longings and test it to find out if your dream is ‘worthy of you’. Once you begin getting excited about your dream, even start acting and doing a couple of things with that dream, the contracting part of you, that old paradigms will begin pulling you back. All these chatter will bombard you.
“Who do you think you are?”
“You don’t have the knowledge to do that!”
“You don’t have the means or the money.”
“You always had these good beginnings!”
“Do you think you are capable of doing this when you have failed thousand times before?”
All this rubbish will raise up in your head and will try to convince you that you don’t deserve that. We all get any of these stories going in our minds keeping us in doubt and fear when our minds go into the survival mode to “protect us” from any change.
However, all the potential and the possibility is stored in the universe for us right where we are. Yes, anything is right where we are, because the mind, the life and the power of the universe, everything is ever present and available to us right here.
So, this step is easy and yet difficult because it requires a lot of persistence to apply. You need to do this over and over again. When ever that old paradigm rises up you can face it saying:
“Up until now, that was true about me. Up until now.”
“Now, I am choosing a new life. Today I choose to partner with the power that knows how to guide this universe; with the power that keeps the galaxies in place and in balance. There is an intelligence, that I am part of, that knows how to do this. And all I need to do is to partner with this intelligence one day at the time.”
“Up until now… Now, I am choosing a new life.”
So, When doubt arises in any form meet that doubt with: “Up until now”.
“When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal—you do not change your decision to get there.” – Zig Ziglar
Step 4.Delay your fears and meet them with ‘Afformations®’-presupposed questioning-
This step is a crucial one! How the heck do you deal with all this fear? That fear that is between you and your dream?
Do you know that you are not alone here? Every single person in this earth, from the great philosophers, inventors and designers to the great dreamers of all time that shaped the world, had to deal with fear? The great Nelson Mandela referred to fear this way:
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
Did he experienced fear at times? Absolutely!
How did he deal with fear? He conquered! Now you may say, okay Mandela did it, but how the heck do I deal with all this fear? That fear that is between me and my dream? Let me give you one of my favorite tools to conquer fear.
But first, let’s review what fear really is!
As we discussed before, fear is a manifestation of your mind working in survival mode. Your mind wants to protect you from change. Your mind likes ‘to travel’ on familiar territory.
Fear is the border line between the reality I’ve known and the reality I am bringing in! Your perceived reality versus your desired reality.
When you start traveling on uncharted territory, your mind brings doubts and fears. All the self doubts rise; all these questioning thoughts appear.
The worst thing you can do here is to welcome doubts and fears. Don’t entertain the fear or the doubt that causes fear. Don’t invite fear or doubt to come in. Don’t go to sleep with doubt. Otherwise you will be awakening in the middle of the night not knowing what to do!
Of course, you don’t know how to reach your dream yet, or you would it done it before. But you can acknowledge that even though you don’t know everything, there is One who does know everything and is controlling the universe.
Consider this: The new ideas that will take you to your dream are not vibrating at the same frequency of fear. So, you feel fear. You hear doubt. You then, must say:
“Yes, I know. I will think about you in three or four days.”
You make a future appointment with them. In the meanwhile, you start creating a different frequency to move out from the wrong frequencies of doubt and fear.
To do that you should ask:
“Why am I so confident?”
“Why do I love being so confident?”
“Why do so many people feel how truly confident I am?
“Why am I so calm?”
Then make an appointment with those fears and doubts in three or four days.
In the meanwhile, you can take decisive steps toward your dream because you can sense more security as you ask yourself frequently during the day:
“Why am I so confident?”
“Why do I love being so confident?”
“Why am I so calm?”
“Why am I more than enough to design new steps to my dream?
Because fear is a persistent companion along the way. Every time you move forward your companion will try to convince you not to go that way.
Remember: With the power of the universe you can create anything!
Step 5. Be Grateful All Day Long
Bless your good ideas. With this step you are inviting inspiration to work through you.
In this step, we have now the seeds of the possibility for the future dream. They start with an idea, and then we plant these ideas in the soil of the life we have.
In agriculture, we learn that if we want an abundant harvest, we have to put the right nutrients in the right proportions in the soil to fertilize it. That will bring more energy to the soil.
How do I allow more energy to come to nurture my dreams?
Meet the powerful tool of Gratitude!
Take the good you do have and bless it! Be really grateful for having what you have. Start practicing all day long gratitude.
Be thankful you can breath -others can’t.
Be thankful you can walk -other can’t.
Be grateful that you are alive and can welcome another day.
See what happens! You are accelerating the good in you.
“When you are in gratitude, fear disappears and abundance appears.” -Tony Robbins
Practice being a person growing, increasing in knowledge. You will find that growth will begin happening in your life. Growth in good ideas, Growth in support. Synchronicities will show up in your life.
If you put yourself in the vibration of growth, you will attract growth in your life. Gratitude is in the frequency of abundance.
Step 6. Practice Forgiveness Each Day –Cleans Yourself
As we start our day, every morning we wash our faces, brush our teeth and normally take a shower, because we know there is an accumulation of grit and sweat on our skin and body from our day before.
However, there is more grit we have to deal with. There is psychological and emotional grit. By practicing forgiveness we can cleanse our mind, mentally, psychologically and spiritually.
When we practice forgiveness we allow more positive energy to come to our lives. We can’t have a great life when we hold that resentment, we can’t have the free flow of energy when we have blocks or leaks in our field of energy.
Forgiveness is not for the other person. It’s always for ourselves. We release negative energy when we forgive.
One day, I was in my clinic and when I was opening the door to call the next person my secretary told me there was an emergency. An old man with no appointment just fainted. I bent down to see him and asked some relatives to help him go into the office for a closer examination.
A woman on her 50’s was very angry and rude with me because I was “ignoring” her as I was going to see the old man first. She just raised her voice and cursed me and left the clinic, slamming the door.
When I finish examining the old man and was sure that he was stable. I approached my secretary and told her:
“Who was that woman? She is the rudest person I’ve ever seen in a long time!”
“Oh, just forgive her” my nurse told me. “She just lost his son in yesterday’s heist in Mercantile bank.”
Immediately all my judgments of her “being this, and “being that” were gone! All I felt was compassion for her.
When I arrived home that afternoon, I remember thinking:
“Wow! The minute I knew her real story, I was moved into compassion. What about that?”
Then an epiphany hit me:
“I am never going to be able to hear everyone’s full story. What if I move from judgment to compassion, since I would never know everyone’s complete life story.”
Yes. Forgiveness moved me into state of mind where I felt compassion, deep understanding, tender feelings, empathy, and benevolence. A feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who was stricken by misfortune, with a strong desire to alleviate suffering.
Forgiveness cleans us from the grit of the negative emotions we are exposed in a daily basis. Forgiveness generates compassion.
Step 7. Welcome the ‘Inner voice’
When we go from our ‘perceived reality’ to our ‘desired reality’, we discussed that we have to change our state of being. Our ‘desired reality’ is held as an image in our mind.
As we go systematically from one step to the other, we put ourselves in harmony with the frequency of that dream. In other words, we begin to resonate at the same frequency -do you remember how we tuned to a different channel on our TV set? We change the frequency of our receptor to match that of the channel we want to see.
This step is both, to get in touch with and to allow ‘the voice of inspired insight’, the voice of divine wisdom. That voice that Gandhi called, “the voice for truth”. He said that ‘the voice for truth’ speaks to every person on the planet every single day and it’s as loud as our willingness to listen.
The question is, how can we make a distinction of that voice from any other voice we hear in our heads?
It starts with a relationship with that voice!
Imagine you start a relationship with a friend that becomes your very best friend. When he or she calls you, would you recognize the voice? Yes, of course you would! After a time, days, weeks; after a long standing and deep relationship you recognize the voice. You didn’t know that voice the first time, even the first few times, but because you got very interested in that relationship, you begin to discern and get familiar with the tone, the frequency of that voice amid all the voices.
When someone calls you and you pick the phone, it could be anybody calling at that moment, but if that friend calls you, you immediately recognize the voice… almost every single time.
In the same way, almost every single time when you pay attention to a voice that really begins to feel like guidance and you give it a try, you allow your ‘higher power’, the voice of inspired insight to work with you and for you. Give it a try and ask some questions about your dream. Ask clear and precise questions and welcome the inner voice. That voice that knows how to build your dream. Ask:
“What step can I take today to move closer to my dream?”
“What action can I take today to get in the direction of my dream?”
Then start your presupposition questioning series:
“Why am I so creative”?
“Why am I so confident”
“Why am I so happy taking these steps to achieve my dream?”
Remember, there is a voice for everything that is known in the universe, that presence knows how to guide you in your dream and will give you inspiration.
You have to practice not to discern your next step, but to take the next step.
Ask the question, then listen and go to the edge of the light that you see! Inspiration will follow!
Step 8. Get a Partner That Resonates With Your Beliefs
Be very careful who you tell your dream to. Often, people who care and love you the most, people that don’t want you to get hurt, have their own beliefs about you and the world. However, they are the people that could discourage you the most saying,
“Don’t do that”
“This isn’t exactly a good time.”
“Look at the economy”, or they may say with incredulity,
In that moment it is very easy, for that emerging dream of yours to be crushed by the disbelief of someone else.
So, I repeat, be very careful who you hang out to share your dreams with. People too weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.
However, it is wise if you know from whom you might get support. Find someone who shares your beliefs and to whom you can tell your dream. Think of someone.
Select somebody that is also a dream builder, somebody that wants to create a life worth living. Someone that you may think to invite to support each other and may strengthen each other, especially when things could go south. Someone that may be ready to say,
“Yes, you can do it”, when circumstances are not favorable.
Invite that person to get connected with you so you can support each other in your beliefs and dreams. Connect with that person at least once a week. You need a partner to help you see other possibilities and hear that inner voice. With that help, you will be able to crack the code of your own disbelief, to walk in a higher level and match the frequency of your dream as you allow that higher power to work in ways you can’t think of now.
Think of that partner, the one who is a dream builder too and share your dream with that person.
Step 9.Learn to Work With your Failures
As we get to step 9, we need to realize that these steps are always present in the spiral growth of awareness and understanding. They will give you skill and inner strength to achieve incredible things in life. However we need another tool that will give you resilience to endure. You need to discover how to:
- Meet failure
- Deal with failure
- Overcome failure
Every great man, every great dream builder has failures. Failures are feedbacks and blessings in disguise. You may have failures but don’t let failure have you.
Don’t fight failure, because you won’t be able to reap the rewards of that experience. Accept what is, this is feedback. Don’t give up your dream because you fail. Discover how to be better not bitter. You are in a discovering process. Allow failure to teach you. In fact, love failure.
Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
“You always pass failure on the way to success.” — Mickey Rooney
I know, it is not easy, but it works!
Step 10.Harvesting your Dream
The more you apply these tools, the easier to use them. They are powerful tools. However what is the best part? The fun of building a dream!
Now you are able to feel the power of your mind, the enormous potential within you. The fun part is who you became in the process of achieving your dream.
The most amazing thing is on discovering that the process to get the product is far better than the product itself. You were so busy building a dream not realizing that your dream was building you.
You are here not to get, but to grow!
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