Most people think falling in love is easy, but staying in love is only possible with a tremendous amount of work.

While that might be true for many people, you don’t have to accept it as your reality.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, and you truly want to stay in (or fall back in) love with your mate, it can be a relatively easy thing to do.

Before I go on, let me remind you that being in love is when two people come together in perfect harmony on all planes of understanding.

So how do you maintain or re-establish a harmonious relationship with minimal effort after the newness has worn off?

Is staying in love more difficult?

Is staying in love more difficult?

I suggest doing these three things:

1. Check Under Your Own Hood: When the exhilaration of a relationship starts to wane, we tend to complain about all the things our partner is doing wrong.

I’d like to suggest that, rather than pointing a finger at your partner, take a good, honest look at yourself. Consider questions like the following:

Do you show your mate that you love and appreciate them, or are you too busy complaining? When the going gets tough, do you rise to the occasion with grace, or do you get angry and shut them out? Do you communicate openly or do you expect your partner to be able to read your mind?

As you examine your own role in the decline of your relationship, you’ll start to see that this really isn’t about your mate at all. It’s about YOU and the vibration you’re putting out. As your awareness of your own behavior grows, you’ll give more and, by law, you’ll receive more from your partner.

2. Build A New Image: If you want a better relationship, recognize that the kind of relationship you want is on a frequency that is above the one that you are living on. Then, create an image of the relationship the way you want it to be—now and moving forward.

Start to visualize yourself having a divine, intimate connection with your partner. Picture and understand that this journey that you walk together will be a journey full of life lessons, blessings, joy, love and beautiful memories. Focus on the qualities that attracted you to your mate when you first fell in love.

By visualizing a long-lasting, loving relationship, you lock yourself onto the higher frequency and you start to create it.

3. Raise Your Expectations: Most of us expect the joy and passion of our relationship to dissipate over time. What do you believe is going to happen in yours?

I ask because you tend to get what you expect. Expect to be annoyed, and you will be. Anticipate a bad day, and you can just about guarantee you’ll have one.

Try this little experiment tonight: Just before you turn out the lights and go to sleep, set a clear, definite positive expectation for your relationship tomorrow:

I expect to feel delighted with my mate. I expect to feel appreciated. I expect to have a wonderful day.

Let your expectation germinate in your mind all night long. Repeat it to yourself — really meaning it — when you wake up tomorrow. And remind yourself of it periodically throughout the day.

Remember you radiate frequencies out into the world in every moment. And your frequencies are constantly attracting similar frequencies to harmonize with.

So if you want to stay or fall back in love, change your vibration by doing the things I’ve suggested here. Then observe—and enjoy—what happens.

To your success,

Bob Proctor