If we want to grow in any realm, we need to get uncomfortable, dissatisfied with what we have.
Acknowledge the need of change for a “better you” . Fall in love with the changing process as you discover how to engage with the laws of nature.
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Neale Donald Walsch
Consider for a moment the next sentences:
- Change is good
- Change is necessary
- Change produces growth, results and bring opportunities
I was in a restaurant. Was hungry, after a long journey in my clinic, it was around 6:30 pm. Breakfast was my only thing ingested in that day and was eaten at 5 am. Except for water and some fresh juices, my stomach was pretty empty. A nice salad and a pizza was solving my need in that moment, when I overheard a conversation on the next table that caught my attention:
“…You know. You would understand it, if you find how lobsters grow! A long-white-beard man on his 70s was telling to a fellow that was writing notes hastily on a pad. He rolled his eyes, puzzled uttering: “Did you say: lobsters?”
“I know”. The old man continued. “How cares how lobsters grow… Before you throw this whole idea out, think! Lobsters are soft, washy animals, that live inside a rigid shell. That rigid shell does not expand. Well, how then a lobster can grow? As the lobster grows, the shell becomes very confining. The lobster lives under pressure and uncomfortable. Goes into a rock formation to protect itself from predators. Cast off the shell and produces another one. Eventually that shell also becomes very uncomfortable as it grows more. Then the lobster goes back under the rock protection and… the lobster repeats this cycle numerous times. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable!
Then the old man said in a sarcastic mode: If lobsters have doctors it would never grow, because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable goes to the doctor, gets a “Valium”, or any painkiller… Feel fine! But it never would come out that shell”
“So my friend” Stood up to leave the table. Looked at me and said: “We need to realize that uncomfortable times are also times for opportunities to grow. If we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity”.
Prepare to Walk on Uncharted Territory
As you decide to change, generally nothing will be the same.
- You will find “New obstacles”.
However, If you use adversity properly, you can grow through adversity
- Prepare to find “New challenges”.
Think at times that everything could spin out of control. However:
- You can ride the situation
- Control the situation by knowing where you’re going
- Don’t be afraid of getting wrong, invite failure, learn from mistakes
- Turn a failure into a success
Don’t bury your failures. Let them inspire you!
- Be open minded
- Find the good angle in every situation
- Detach from emotions
- Don’t judge, accept what is
- Turn a failure into a success
Judgment is one of the biggest originators of destruction on this planet. It creates segmented, fragmented societies, and a separation from ourselves. How much of our life have we been judging ourselves? For getting things right or wrong or being good or bad? Judgment, discrimination and discernment are all sources for creating conclusions so we can get something right. But if we never had to be right and we never had to be wrong, what choice would we actually have?
This is an invitation for a totally different way of being in the world a way of being us, that includes all of us, all of our capacities, all our feelings, and all of the possibilities we’ve always wanted to create and live by, with absolutely no judgment. Accept what is. Then we’ll develop a remarkable state of consciousness.
Consciousness is where everything exists and is and nothing is judged. In other words: Accept what is. Imagine living in a world like that.
Well, this is where it begins!
When we no longer have judgment in our world, we’ll walk around with a sense of freedom no matter what we are doing and no matter where we are. As we start to go beyond judgment in our world, we stop doing that with other people too.
- Keep going (continuing the pursuit)
- Be prepared to confront criticism from former supporting groups
Getting uneasy is part of the game. So, get used and get uncomfortable. Don’t be afraid. Keep in mind: “If we do the thing we fear, death of fear is certain.”
Remember: Courage is not the absence of fear, is pursuing in spite of those feelings.
Happy New Year!!